Woman was created by God for a purpose
When we read the Genesis account of Creation, we see that “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27).
This is a general statement that is further explained as we read on, in
the book of Genesis. Details in the book show that the animals and every
other creature were created before man and then man was given dominion
over them (Genesis 1:28).
Fast forward to Genesis chapter 2 and we
learn that as man (Adam) was naming all of the animals (the birds of
the air, the cattle and every beast of the field) he did not find one
that would help to meet his own need of a mate. And so our great God
caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep at which time God took one of
Adam’s ribs and made a woman. Adam saw the woman and named her “woman”
because she was now bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh (Genesis
2:20-23).
At the end of Genesis chapter 2 we see for what purpose the woman was made:
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
Woman was made by God for man. Her main
purpose on earth is to be in a one flesh relationship with her husband.
This is God’s original design and as we read through the Bible we find
more truth for the role of the wife.
A wife should follow her husband’s leadership
As we get into chapter 3 of Genesis we
read of the fall of man (and woman). We see how Eve was left to herself
in the garden and she was tempted and deceived by the serpent, who led
her to eat from the tree in the midst of the garden that had been
forbidden by God (Genesis 2:17). This command was given to Adam and he
must have told his wife the one and only rule that they had in the
garden — don’t eat from that tree – because we see that she repeats it to that serpent here:
And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden: But
of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath
said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die. (Genesis 3:2-3)
Eve did not follow her husband’s
leadership when he told her the one rule she could not break and the
result was sin. After this first sinful act (in which Adam also
participated – Genesis 3:6) God further defined the role of the husband
and the wife as follows:
Unto
the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy
conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire
shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. And
unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy
wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying,
Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow
shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In
the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the
ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust
shalt thou return. (Genesis 3:16-19)
“… and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” The
idea of the wife being in submission to the husband is not something
that was made up by some women’s rights organization. This is how God
made it. God gave Adam a wife to “help meet” his needs. She was designed
for him and when she started doing things out of the lust of her own
flesh the result was sin. This is very true in our marriages today. God
gave us a husband to lead us and when we go against his godly leadership
many times we fall into sin. Every partnership needs a leader, when we
refuse to be led by our husband we are going against a fundamental
biblical principle set by God. When we go against our husband’s
leadership; we are going against God’s design for us. If you disagree
with this, then you disagree with God and I pray that you will have a
change of mind and agree with God’s plan. The only exception to this is
when our husband tells us to do something contrary to what God’s word
tells us to do. I can say from my own experience, following my husband’s
leadership is the best choice I have ever made in our marriage.
A wife should care for her husband
When we unselfishly love and live for our husband we glorify Christ and teach the world the true role of the Christian wife.
Your husband’s job is to provide for you
(as we saw in Genesis 3 above). He is made to work hard for provision. I
understand there are circumstances in which the husband is not able to
work – he is physically unable. In this case the wife may work outside
of the home. Even so, you were created to “help meet” his needs and one
of them is his need to have a comfortable living environment. When he
comes home from work, you should have a meal prepared for him. His house
should be tidy and his laundry should be clean. The children should be
trained to understand that “Daddy” has worked hard all day and he will
spend time with them after he spends time with you. A few minutes when
hubby comes home from work is essential to your relationship with him.
Spend 15 to 20 minutes just talking – the two of you. Do this before
children ever come into your marriage and then when the children come,
teach them that this is “Mommy and Daddy’s time”. Theirs will come when
you are finished.
Another thing that a husband needs is a
close physical relationship. A good morning kiss and a kiss when he
leaves for work are essential. A hug and a kiss when he returns home and
your heartfelt desire to “welcome” him home is something he deserves.
Other physical relations are also necessary. Plan time to spend in the
bedroom; just the two of you. Your husband loves you and knows that you
may not always be able to have the physical relations that he would
like. This is to be expected, but this should be the exception rather
than the rule. Make special time just for him – get your needed rest so
you can enjoy each other. Make a “date night” regularly, even if it is
just to go out and get some fast food, or take a walk in the park. My
husband and I do not have lots of money for date time so we look for
creative ways to enjoy time together. I remember one time when I planned
a beach picnic for supper – in the dead of winter up north! I put on
some Beach Boys music in the bedroom, laid beach towels on the bed and
made a picnic meal. I put on my swimsuit and tied my hair in a ponytail.
I rubbed down with some tropical oil so the “smell of the beach” would
be in the bedroom. When he arrived home from work I gave him
instructions to change into his swim clothes (which I hung in the
bathroom) and then join me “ocean side”. This was a cost free date and
we made a great memory too! Feel free to use this idea for your own
special time.
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let
her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy
thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. (Proverbs 5:18-19)
A wife must be careful what she says; love him
Gossip and backbiting destroys
It is so easy to get caught up in gossip
when we are with our girlfriends. I am sometimes just astounded at what
some women will say about their husbands. Our husband should be the
most important relationship we have – next to our relationship with God.
We must be careful what we say about him. Our conversation (including
our body language) should be always kind and tenderhearted. We must
remember that we are walking, talking examples of someone who is
indwelled with the Holy Spirit. We should display only the fruit that is
produced of the Holy Spirit, therefore the conversation we have about
our husband should resemble the following scripture:
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. (Galatians 5:22-25)
Do you love him enough to live for him?
Ladies, how much do you love your
husband? Truly the Bible tells us that a husband should love his wife
enough that he is willing to die for her (Ephesians 5:25); but what
about the wife? The original design for us is to live for our husband
because he is our earthly representative of Christ (Ephesians 5:23). We
were created for him and from him. We were created to bare
his children. We were made to have desire for him only. This means that
his needs must come before our own. Remember, I am talking to the
ladies here and know that your love for your husband is independent
of his love for you. What I mean to say is, you cannot control how he
is toward you, but you can make a daily choice to love him in spite of
how he loves you. Our biblical command to love one another is simple and it comes right out of the mouth of Jesus: “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another” (John 13:34).
Conclusion
Today’s world views have distorted the
biblical truth that woman was created for man. As Christian wives, when
we get back to the fundamentals we can be the best wife that God has
made us to be. God’s design is perfect and although we will never be
perfect this side of heaven, we can strive to follow our husband’s
leadership, care for him, respect him in all manner of our conversation
and live our life to help meet his needs. The marriage relationship
on earth is a living representation of Christ’s relationship to the
church, His bride (Ephesians 5:21-33). When we unselfishly love and live
for our husband we glorify Christ and teach the world the true role of
the Christian wife. God knows best and when we agree with Him our
marriages will be blessed. It is a daily choice, are you choosing to
follow God’s way?
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